Break Up

What’s the big deal who left who? Every time I hear or say break up, people want to know who said let’s break up? Does it really matter? Some years ago, as teenagers, it was cool. We used the excuse, I never get dumped or I saw it coming so I did it fast. Truth is, people still abide by these rules. FYI ( For Your Information) it’s no big deal who breaks up. A break up is probably a ripple effect or a reaction.

He cheated = I broke up with him

There are too many ways to look at this statement. Why did he cheat? He probably broke up with you in his mind before cheating so he left. Or he cheated and got caught easily because he subconsciously had given up on the ‘us’ or the ‘you’.

I broke up with him not = He cheated

The war turns when you put it this way. This is actually a stage of recovery. We’re trying to discover why he cheated. You tell your friends you broke up with him and they ask why and you say he cheated and they all start saying how they didn’t like him etc. So if he had so many wrongs, is love truly blind or maybe you were ‘imperfect’ yourself so you never really manned up to say, I don’t like this about you. He didn’t cheat only because he’s a player, he did it because you probably lacked something he wanted or had something he didn’t want like too many wrong people around you. As to the lacking of something, don’t feel bad, feel normal. Guys of today want to engage in pre-marital sex and still marry a virgin so that puts you in a fix that you really have no options, so what do you reasonably lack? Of course, there will always be some things you lack or lacked at a point in time but relationships and partners are supplementary in nature – he should be there where you fall short. Most people want their spouses to be perfect.

If a guy or girl requires such absolution from you, it’s because he or she lacks it and craves it. Tell him to look elsewhere. Be the childish immature one to break up with someone over something as silly as him or her wanting perfect and be content that you tried to be yourself and to change the things that you could change and needed to change

Some girly advice

Well he said he wasn’t ready to move in with me. Let’s come to Ghanaian soil. I’ve heard stuff like he broke up with me because he said he needed space but I think he likes his ex. This is the reality of things. He likes his ex. The reason people give with break ups is usually some excuse for that which they are ashamed to admit or because they never loved you and the pity they’ve always had has now turned to guilt so they can’t look into your eyes and say I was only using you to get over my ex or wait for her to love me again or something like that. Being a guy, this, I know for a fact and to all female readers, sorry.